The antidote to disconnection
How do you recover when you’re feeling disconnected from someone you love?
Each day seems to include epic moments of love, and painful moments of disconnection — It’s the blissful intimacy that makes the contrast of disconnection feel so sharp.
And in those moments, we’re learning to unify as a team.
We’re collaborating to notice when childhood patterning shows up as a trigger.
When I’m afraid, I go into being hyper vigilant and speeding up. So we’re both learning to slow me down.
And when he’s afraid, he freezes and avoids. So we’re both learning to turn towards each other.
These few weeks as we’re exploring sacred sexuality through Tantra, and we’re learning that anything that shows up in sex shows up in other areas of life.
And by noticing the patterns that come up in one area, we can show compassion for ourselves when they show up elsewhere.
The One World Tantra Festival has given us some special moments of introspection, and several moments of frustration — with varying levels of facilitator quality.
And even in the moments that feel tough, we’re choosing to allow the disconnection to exist. To welcome it by being curious with it.
So, what’s the antidote to disconnection?
Asking these question:
What’s really going on here?
What feels threatened?
What do I need right now?